A PERILAKU PROMISKUITAS DALAM HUBUNGAN FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS PADA MAHASISWA : (Studi pada 4 Mahasiswa di Penginapan X Kecamatan Gambir, Jakarta Pusat)

Amanatal Hayyi

Authors

Amanatal Hayyi Universitas Negeri Jakarta

Keywords:

meaning, interaction patterns, Friends with Benefits, Promiscuity Behavior

Abstract

Friends with Benefits is a friendship that involves sexual activity and promiscuity behavior is a sexual behavior with multiple sexual partners. This research aims to describe the symbols, meaning, and interaction patterns of promiscuity behavior in Friends with Benefits Relationships among college students. This research used a qualitative study through interview with 4 college students aged 23 years. This research uses Helbert Blumer’s perspective in symbolic interactionism theory. The result of this study showed that there are individual symbols of biological and psychological needs with being involved in promiscuity behavior of Friends with Benefits, such as affection, intimacy and sexual needs. There are also external factors such as individual relationships in family and friendships. Besides, being involved in Friends with Benefits Relationships has become a necessity towards individuals. This affects the individuals' meaning of sexual activity in relationships with a Friends with Benefits. The individual meaning of being involved in Friends with Benefits relationships becomes self-formation in individual and the meaning improves along with the Friends with Benefit Relationships.

Keywords: Friends with Benefits, Promiscuity Behavior, Meaning, Interaction Patterns.

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